Revision of Relations
Every close relationship needs revisiting from time to time. Circumstances change, resentments build up, new expectations appear, and a moment comes when you need to sit down and talk honestly: what works for us, what does not, and how we will go on. The "revision of relations" query in the Chinese Fortune Calendar is made for exactly this moment.
Importantly, a revision is not a breakup. The aim of such a talk is to keep the relationship and renew it by finding a new balance. In Chinese tradition this calls for a day of harmony, when people's energies draw together rather than pushing apart. On an unfavourable day an honest talk easily turns into a quarrel, and an attempt to agree into a final split.
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What the query covers:
- an honest conversation about problems in the relationship;
- discussing the couple's future: shared plans, daily life, money, children;
- new agreements and "rules" for the relationship;
- making up after a quarrel, a "second chance", a "reset" of the relationship;
- seeing a couples therapist together;
- revisiting relationships with relatives and restoring family ties.
When to use a different query:
- a date or meeting someone new: "romantic date";
- an engagement or discussing the wedding: "wedding discussion, engagement";
- asking for forgiveness when you are the one at fault: also check "request for forgiveness";
- settling a property dispute: "amicable settlement";
- breaking up: "breakup, divorce";
- business relationships: "networking with partners".
How the Calendar rates the day. For a revision of relations the favourable Day Officers are Open, Balance, Stable, Success and Establish. Balance helps the two sides find equilibrium, while Stable and Establish help secure the new agreements. The unfavourable ones are Close, Destruction and Remove: on such days a talk risks ending in a quarrel or a split. Among the lunar mansions, House, Root, Bow, Chariot, Horn, Net, Wall and Guardian are good, while Ox, Winnowing Basket, Maiden, Stomach, Turtle Beak, Astride, Pleiades, Void and Heart are unfavourable. The day is supported by the Flower of Romance, the Red Luan, Harmony of the Spouse House, Three Harmonies in the House of Spouse, the Star of Heavenly Happiness, Personal Harmony, the Day of Three Harmony, the Heavenly and Monthly Stars of Virtue and the Three Mystics. It is weakened by the Star of Loneliness, the Lonely Day, the Lonely Luan, the Separating Day, Destruction in the Day, the Star of Losses, the Clash of the House of Marriage, the Clash of Personality, the Clash of Heavenly Stems, the Clash of the Month, the Loveless Punishment Day, the Ungrateful Penalty Day and Calamity Sha.
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Tip. Personal Harmony, the Clash of Personality and the Day of Personal Destruction are calculated from your Bazi chart, so the Personal Calendar matters especially for this query. If you know the other person's date of birth, check the day against their chart too. And choose an auspicious hour for the conversation itself.